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Build up self confidence at work May 9, 2011

Filed under: Tips for a successful career — Amber Little @ 10:16 pm
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No matter what kind of work you are in, your self confidence levels throughout your career will directly determine your levels of success.  If you don’t believe in yourself, you can’t expect others to.  Feelings of low self esteem can be painfully obvious to those around you, and can can cause a vicious cycle of self doubt and struggle in your life.  If you are not feeling confident, your boss and coworkers will pick up on this immediately.  They will likely start to doubt your abilities, and your boss may take away some of your responsibilities and not consider you for future projects.  This in turn will cause your self confidence levels to plummet even more, which may cause people to lose even more trust in you.  The good news is that there is a way out.  First, you need to be brutally honest with yourself and admit you are struggling.  From there, things can only get better.  Here are a few ways that you can get yourself out of a self confidence rut:

Be extremely prepared and organized.  Being prepared and organized are two of the most powerful ways you can boost your confidence levels.  By simply taking as little as 15 minutes a day to stay ahead of the game, you will reduce your anxiety levels, and it will show.

If you don’t have self confidence at the moment, fake it.  Body language is a powerful tool.  When you are feeling a bit down, you can fool others (and even yourself) into thinking you are on top of the world.  Stand tall, put your shoulders back and your head up.  Not only will you feel better, but people will also treat you better.

Express an interest to take on a new project.  When you always give yourself a challenge, you will be able to showcase your strong points and talents.  It shows great initiative to step up to the plate every now and then, and will make you feel great.

Make an effort to get along with coworkersThere really isn’t a worse feeling than being an outsider.  When you feel like you don’t belong, you will naturally begin to isolate yourself, which can lead to feelings of loneliness and depression.  Try and break out of this.  Make an effort to talk to and connect with people around you, you will be happier for doing so.

Face your fears.  Just like in life, when you face your fears at work head on, they simply aren’t as scary. Take some bold actions and learn how you can concur any roadblocks.

Think of your confidence levels as a journey.    Self confidence is a learned skill, and isn’t going to come overnight.  Remember that it’s okay to fall along the way, as long as you get back up.

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Look Your Best May 1, 2011

Filed under: Tips for a successful career — Amber Little @ 2:54 pm
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As the old saying goes, you never get a second chance to make a first impression.  And while we should really never judge a book by its cover, the fact is that people do.  We are constantly judged by our appearance, and whether you realize it or not you are also  judging others based on their appearance.  The way you choose to present yourself says a lot about you, especially at work.  Although we may have given a bad impression in the past, we are more than capable of giving a good second and lasting impression going forward.

Dressing casual or sloppy at work can give the impression that you are unorganized and unprofessional.  Managers, as well as coworkers and customers, may feel quite uncomfortable putting trust into a person that looks like they just rolled out of bed.  However, when you dress for success, those around you will perceive you in a more professional light.  This feedback will in turn encourage you to act in a more professional manner.  Also, many people are firm believers that you should dress for the position you want.  If your current position does not require a very professional dress code, yet upper managers are dressing professionally, you should dress like them!  This will give you an edge in the workplace, and people (including management) will take notice and view you in a much different light.  You don’t need to go out and spend an arm and a leg on expensive clothes, you just need to buy on the cheap and put a little more thought into your wardrobe.

Finally, while there are numerous benefits to dressing nicely, the most important one is how it will make you feel.  You will feel better about yourself when you look nice and put together.  If you know you look good, your self confidence will increase and you will carry yourself better.  So why not?  Go on, give yourself a little boost and look your best!

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The Secrets of Great Communication April 30, 2011

Filed under: Tips for a successful career — Amber Little @ 12:54 pm
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Do you ever find yourself having a hard time making conversation with new people?  If so, you are not alone. Communicating with strangers can be quite the daunting task, especially if you are a bit of an introvert and your self confidence is feeling a bit low.  While breaking out of our little shells will always require a bit of legwork on our part, the good news is that the more we practice the easier it will get.  Lucky for us, there are some very easy guidelines that we can follow to make conversing a little less scary:

Smile.  Smiling is such an easy way to improve your conversation.  It will put the other person at ease and let them know you are happy to be speaking with them.  It will also give your self confidence a boost.

Avoid too much detail.  Broad topics are great, but if you are speaking to a person that is not an expert on the subject, try to omit needless detail.  It will leave them bored senseless.

Avoid strong stances on political and religious views.  While it can be fun to engage in debates, it may be best to do so with people you already know quite well.  Doing so with strangers can be quite the conversation killer…remember to be sensitive to other people’s views.

If you’d like to criticize, do it by asking questions.  By asking questions, you are not directly criticizing the other person’s view, you are simply expressing doubt.  By doing this, you are able to criticize without offending.

Pay attention to your body language.  Be sensitive to the other person’s reactions, and remember to exude positive body language.

Give the person a chance to speak.  One of the biggest mistakes a person can make is to dominate the conversation and always insist on getting in the last word.  Pay attention to this and make sure you are giving the person a chance to  join in the conversation.

Speak clearly and slowly.  It can be so very awkward to ask a person to repeat themselves over and over again…not only does it interrupt the conversation, it also will likely result in the person simply pretending like they heard you.  How many times is two many times to ask a person to repeat?  I say 3 and then I’m done asking…it’s just too awkward!

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Build up that self confidence April 16, 2011

Filed under: Healthy Living Tips — Amber Little @ 2:58 pm
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Self confidence is a key ingredient of  happiness and success. A lot of people may think that self confidence comes naturally, and if you don’t have it, you just don’t have it.  Well, I’m here to tell you otherwise.  While there are always a few lucky ones that are just born with natural confidence brimming from their little souls, the rest of us need to work on it every now and then.  The good news is that building up your confidence does not require too much effort, and it’s definitely worth the work.  Here are a few easy ways to boost that confidence on days when you are feeling a little less than liony.

Try something different.  If you are feeling a little ho hum and not feeling great about yourself, try and mix it up.  Do something different one day…join the gym, join a book club, go to the beach.  It will definitely brighten your day and give you something to look forward to doing again.

Be yourself.  I always get down when I try and pretend that I’m something I’m not.  It sounds a little corny, but be yourself.  Be weird, be goofy, be klutzy…be whatever it is you are.  It will leave you feeling much better than trying to cover up the true awesome you.

Reach out and socialize.  Sometimes we simply need a friend to talk to.  We are social beings, and if we are feeling down and out, it rarely does us much good to stay in and try and deal with it ourselves.  Talk to a friend, sibling, significant other…and try and get out of the house.  You don’t have to spill your soul if you don’t want to, but just the act of socializing will make your day a little brighter and boost your confidence.

Look your best.  If you are having a tough time, I find an easy way to boost your confidence is to dress up.  Ladies, make yourselves pretty!  Boys, make yourselves pretty too.

Tell yourself you are AWESOME.  This could even involve wearing a shirt that states you are awesome.  Even though you are having a tough day, the truth is you ROCK.  So don’t forget to remind yourself.

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